In this episode, Elise & Scott Grice open up about their battles with mental health and their personal experiences with trauma counseling after years of struggling with codependency, addiction, depression, anxiety, grief, and anger.
“So many people pursue busyness because they’re worried that if they create space in their lives, then the pain from their past will creep in. It’s like they’re running away from the pain because they’re afraid that if they slow down at all, it’s going to catch up and overtake them.”
— @heysweetpea
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Mental health within the entrepreneurial world
- What trauma really is
- Busyness and running away from your past/pain
- Social media and the endless loop of affirming trauma
- Our early acceptance of grief and pain
- The danger of compartmentalizing life and business
- How we found a therapist
- Experiential therapy versus “talk-therapy”
- Neural pathways and untangling facts from feelings
- How we cope
- The spectrum of codependency and addiction
- Overachieving and codependency
- Discomfort and addiction
- Healthy rituals and boundaries
- Giving from a place of overflow
- Creating sustainability for ourselves, our marriage, and our business
- What ‘self-care’ really is and how to practice it
Additional resources:
If you’re looking for additional support and individual therapy after listening to this episode, we’ve gathered the following resources for you. As always, please research, read, and listen at your own discretion.
Therapists:
Note: If you’re looking for a trauma-focused therapist, here are a few search terms and specialties to consider:
EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy)
ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy)
SE (Somatic Experiencing)
LI (Lifespan integration)
Books:
- Option B by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant
- Let Go Now: Embracing Detachment by Karen Casey
- Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
- Healing Spiritual Wounds by Carol Howard Merritt
- Trauma & Recovery by Judith L. Herman
- Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
- Emotional Agility by Susan David
Podcasts, Videos, & Articles:
- The Liturgists Podcast: Spiritual Trauma
- Psychology Today: Why Daughters of Unloving Mothers Struggle with Shame
- Brené Brown: TED Talk on Listening to Shame
- Truth Telling Podcast: Overcoming Narcissistic abuse + Codependency with Lisa Romano
- The Tim Ferriss Show: Dr. Gabor Maté – New Paradigms, Ayahuasca, and Redefining Addiction
- Terri Cole’s Hello Freedom Podcast
- Dawn Smith: Ted Talk on Why I Left an Evangelical Cult
Other tools and resources:
- Mental health checklist by Todd Herman
- 10 Virtual Therapy and Mental Health Apps to Cope With Coronavirus Stress
- Lift: A science-based program + support for depression and anxiety
- Turn: A science-based program + support for substance abuse
- Immediate/urgent support resource list
- International help and resources